Follow Your Plan

“My story is to tell you how important it is to follow the program. My big brother has just passed away – he was 6 months post RNY. I loved my brother more than he could ever guess but he was not a good candidate for bariatric surgery. We were having the surgery six months apart with different surgeons, at different hospitals, yet together so we could share the journey.

They gave him very little education and the psychologist should have picked up on how non compliant he would be. I tried to talk him out of it but he was determined.

Please take care of yourself if you are going to do this. Completely understand all the requirements and if they do not explain so everything is crystal clear, have them go over it again and again until it is. 

I will be going through with my RNY on the 11th with my brother in my heart. He was looking so forward to seeing his little sister back to health.”


Now the lesson
If we can reach just one of you, some light can come from tragedy. Too many treat bariatric surgery as if it is simply a diet and turn their head to the intensity of the operation. A smart friend quipped that if we woke up with a giant bolt going through our leg we would get it, but since there are Band-Aids on our belly, we think it’s nothing. Your internal surgical wounds must heal – this is no time to go to the mall, out to dinner, visiting friends and on vacation.

Sew what?
In terms of food, you must stick to your surgeons program for post op food stages. You need time to allow the tiny pouch cut and sewn from the fabric of your giant floppy stomach to heal itself closed. We have all glued something only to have the seams pop open. The liquid>>>soft food stages are to avoid stressing pouch seams and give your stomach a break from the process of digestion.

Is ice cream a puree?
If you need more info as to how to eat right after surgery, we have Food Stage lists for you. Sirloin steak is not a soft food. Ice cream is NOT a puree. You can’t eat popcorn, raw carrots or celery ten days after surgery. People ask if we think they could have a pork chop, we say ‘no’, they eat it anyhow, then tell us ‘they didn’t have a problem’. No alcohol for a year… non negotiable… but people push back saying their surgeon said five weeks was okay. Folks… we know better and we are trying to help you.

General Tso? NOT your friend
The post op dietary stages are not a suggestion, they are a requirement for you own safety. You cannot eat Chinese food the week after surgery because you ‘chew it well’. A ‘craving’ for Orange Chicken landed one support group member in the hospital! It’s a very bad idea to push. Being ‘released’ to ‘regular food’ does not mean what you think it does, but you already know that. How long until you can have pizza again? “Pizza is not a food for someone having obesity surgery.” (that’s a quote from Dr. N on My 600 lb Life) Every single week in our support group, these actions land new post ops in the hospital.

sip sip sip sip sip… 
If you had a back injury, you would not tile your kitchen floor the same week. Yet, people think nothing of making a trip to a theme park when they should be at home resting and taking in fluids. People ask us ‘Do you think I would be able to go on a cruise two weeks after my sleeve?’ (Nooooo!) As high as 30% of post ops are dehydrated enough to land back in the hospital with a fluid IV. Not drinking enough water after surgery can cause heart damage. Dehydration is the most common bariatric complication, yet it’s largely avoidable. Stay home and heal… drink hot water, cold water, broth, Diet Snapple, herbal tea, eat sf ice pops and jello. (We have a free bariatric water app called HY, click for

What’s eating you?
If eating is a compulsion that you cannot control, ask your surgeon to suggest someone for you to talk to. A therapist can help you come to conclusions about your life – you talk, they listen and even after one chat you’ll often have a clearer truth of why you use eating as comfort. Knowing what drives you can help you deal with your eating issues to better work with your surgery.

Vitamins are critical
It is impossible for you to have your stomach surgically removed or reconfigured and take in the nutrients needed to run your body. While your surgeons group has mentioned Flintstones, that is so you will possibly take something instead of being one of the 67% of post ops who take nothing. They are not optimal and wont prevent long term problems like broken bones from simple falls and losing teeth, but may keep you from dying in the short term. The idea behind supplements is to prevent issues from grabbing you in twenty years when it’s too late to change the path. Take them.

Protein from food? What a novel idea!
Yes yes yes, we’d all like to get our protein from food and that’s what you want to hear. However, if you are unable to take in 70 grams of protein per day, you can either weaken and lose your hair or you can figure out another way until you are able to learn and eat the right foods. Protein drinks make up the difference between what you can eat and what you need. They are not simply a tasty beverage for your enjoyment for you to be all picky and ridiculous over. They are the antidote for your disease of morbid obesity. Morbid means death and obesity surgery only slows and reverses the disease if you follow your plan.

Please wake up get very serious about what you have done to your body. There are obvious rewards to losing 150 pounds, but it does not need take place at the expense of your life. Peace.

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14 thoughts on “Not the time for Chinese Food

  1. Venis Patterson says:

    I’m so happy you made this post, because when I read the things that some of us are saying on this blog it amazes me. I asked myself the questions, what are we thinking? why did we do the surgery? didn’t our Drs education us on the procedure, what to expect, what to eat, when to eat, what to drink, when to drink, our portions, how to take care of our bodies? etc. This article is a wake up call for all of us, every single one of us no exceptions. It bothers me when i see some people behave the way they do on this site as if they don’t care. We have such thin skin that every little thing sets us off. This is our bodies, we should not depend on what everyone is saying, but we shoud do our own research, ask a lot of questions and try to understand the new lifestyle we have embarked upon. We appreciate everyone on this site, we learn from each other, we different people with different taste, different morals, we think different, no two of us are alike. We may do the sames things, eat the same food, do the same exercises, but get different results. That does not mean we are not working the tool. Let us continue to stick to the plan, listen to our body, do what we know is right and is expected of us. I don’t believe that we all did this surgery because we have moey to waste. We all have a need. I believe most was for medical reasons. As for me I’m off my blood pressure medication, because it’s now stablized, i’m walking without a cane, i’m doing other things that I could not do for many years, things that we take for granted. For us who are not sticking by the plan and not doing the right thing to better our health, i’m encouraging us to do better, and for those of us who are sticking to the plan let us help those who are weak and to pull them with us. I’m not bashing anyone I want to see us succeed at this and to have a happy and healthy life. Thanks for listening and doing better. Mrs. Leach you are doing a beautiful job by keeping everything and everyone in line, I don’t know if I could handle what you are doing but you are good at it. Thanks for taking up the mantle and running with it we are forever grateful to you for your work which is helping everyone all over this world. Sorry about the young man who past away, may his soul rest in peace. I pray that God will be a fence of protection around you and your family, that He will continue to give you insight for the things you are doing and that He will continue to strengthened and keep you under His wings. Have a great and productive week, and thanks again for this great article you have done well. God bless you!!

  2. Meg R says:

    Oh Sista … can I get an AMEN !!!!

    I am amazed by some people who are in such great denial about themselves, their lives and their reality. Pizza is what got me here as well as Ice Cream and Orange Chicken with fried rice. I had a one month post op ask me – how soon can I have beer … REALLY?

    I used the analogy of the broken leg. No one goes for a jog the day after the cast comes off. I relate the time after surgery as the stomach being in “rehab” – it literally needs to relearn how to eat and drink and what you put in there, how much and it’s texture is CRITICAL to the healing process. Another thing that amazies me as well is, yes it is going to hurt… WHAT??? … “But is hurts when I ….” Yes and you still have to get your protein in. ” Can’t I just take a protein pill?” Yes, it is called a chicken leg !

    Despite months of education and preparation, too many bright, intelligent people develop post-op amensia or clearly went thru the process thinking surgey was some sort of ‘magic’ pill. Bariatric surgery is real. It is a permanently, surgically induced handicapp that thankfully saved my life. Pass the protien powder !

  3. sharon says:

    Hello….thank you so much for this article…I am 9 years post op and have maintained 100 of the 120 that I initially lost..I never did reach my ultimate goal of losing 170 lbs, but I feel better and have no health problems. I am currently trying to get back on program to reset my pouch to lose more weight. I heard that there was a way to do this, but I missed the article. If anyone knows how to do this. I would greatly appreciate any input. THANKS

  4. Ruthie says:

    Thank you so much for this article. The unapologetic truthfulness you speak is why I keep reading and reading everything on this website, and facebook page. I need inspiration daily, sometimes hourly!

  5. Kathleen Baswell says:

    Susan thank you for sharing my brothers story. I did go through with my surgery and am doing everything I can to be successful and healthy. My heart is still breaking but I know he will be watching over me.

  6. tkl46545 says:

    I’m five years out of a lapband revised to a Vertical sleeve gastrectomy. I stupidly thought I could skip the vitamins because of budgetary concerns. I was not carefully monitored because my surgery happened in Mexico and frankly I’m not sure I would have been compliant anyway. I had no health insurance for the last five years so any blood work came out of my pocket. I finally got insurance and went to a great primary care doctor who listened to my list of concerns about fingernails that were peeling, joint pain, sleeplessness, extreme weariness, brain fog, heart palpitations, and heavy bruising. She ordered blood work that searched a little deeper than “just routine” and nearly every thing she checked for was critically low. She literally gave me a B-12 shot before I left her office that day. I am slowly working my way back to health but have a long way to go. NO weight loss is worth your overall health! I tried another bariatric vitamin but the chewables are nauseating to me….I was so glad to see that the 3+3 came in a capsule and just ordered my first bottle of them. I look forward to this site helping me with my full recovery!

  7. Gina Musto says:

    Thank you so much for sharing your story, God Bless your brother and may he watch over you and guide you through your journey.
    I am so thankful my mother in law mentioned this web site to me. I am 3 months post op with lots of questions and see I will get great info. It’s an awesome feeling to know the support is here!! Thank you!!!

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