This morning there was a HUGE sign in the window of Dunkin Donuts promoting TWO DOZEN for 11.99 – FALL DEAL.

One dozen is 8.99 (I looked it up online… hehehe) which means the second dozen is $3. The average person waking in doesn’t have any intention of buying two dozen donuts, but you’d have to be foolish not to, right? And they’ve got orange frosting! It all starts off so innocently in October.

Huge bags of ‘fun sized’ Halloween candy are piled high at the grocery store. Everywhere we go has a big dose of candy mania. I don’t care a thing about Halloween candy but felt swept up and bought a small bag of sugar free Werther’s Originals as a safety net – wow wow wow – 30 days til Halloween and it’s EVERYWHERE.




Rule Number One

DO NOT EAT CANDY CORN. Not a single piece. You already know what it tastes like. You can think about it and conjure up that exact taste in your mouth. You can taste it now, can’t you? We all have eaten a thousand little cone shaped pieces. One. Color. At. A. Time. You don’t need to know how many sugar grams there are in five pieces. You don’t need to know the sugar grams in a mini Snickers bar. Halloween Candy is none of your business. It’s not a food for people who have had obesity surgery. (Dr. Nowzaradan says it just like that!)

Break glass in case of emergency

Buying the bag of Sugar Free Werther’s allows for an alternative so no one feels punished. Which statement sounds more reasonable even though the voices are in our heads? ‘You cant have candy corn! You can’t have anything.’ OR ‘You could have the candy corn but why not have a Sugar Free Werther’s instead.’ Boom.

Find joy elsewhere

Happiness can be found in a slice of crisp peeled apple you nibble while wearing smaller jeans. It can be found while running around the Pumpkin Patch with your children because you can move and even run. It’s found in not taking diabetes medicine. True solace can be found in the colored leaves while walking on a Fall day. Get high on life instead of a candy rush!

Big Eye Roll

If you are rolling your eyes right now, this message is to you: please understand that a significant portion of weight lost comes back if you continue to cheat around your surgery with foods you know are bad to eat. Who says so? Hundreds of thousands of bariatric post ops just like you, who all say ‘100 pounds gone forever!’ just like you do. It’s not forever unless you change. Calculating the number of mini Snickers you can eat before potentially getting sick is a very bad thing and if this is you, please get some help. Seeking therapy is a good thing.

Poor us!

Some of you give our support team a hard time about not ‘depriving yourself’ because you want to have your cake and eat it too, ‘in moderation’ of course. Since when does not eating donuts, candy, popcorn, bagels, soda, pizza, fried chicken and ice cream mean you are deprived? Most of the world has never tasted these foods and do not appear to be worse off for it. Maybe a little deprivation will do us good.

Forced compliance

After years of not being able to moderate ourselves, we left the hospital with a surgically created pouch that holds four ounces. If you rely on food to fill you with joy, you’ll come up short after surgery too. Take control and refuse to be a victim. Take responsibility for your pre op state and figure out where your old way of eating and lifestyle went wrong. Come up with a new new path with new foods to love. No one dies without candy corn.

Naturally slim people keep their mitts out of the Halloween Candy. They’re the ones who take it to the office so slugs like us will eat it. Don’t be the post op who asks ‘WHEN CAN I EAT PIZZA AGAIN?” “Can I have chocolate?” “No judgment, but I ate four Reese’s Cups yesterday.” Groan…

Many of those who have had bariatric surgery just don’t seem to get that in order for things to change, we have to change because the world remains the same. Surgery is easy, we have to make the hard part happen.



20 thoughts on “Halloween is JUST the Beginning

  1. Elaine says:

    5 Days until Halloween — first year to break the “Candy Cycle” that starts with Halloween and continues thru Easter. It’s a wonderful feeling to not have eaten bags (yes, bags) of candy by this point. Looking forward to working out at the Fitness Center after work today!!

  2. Jennifer says:

    Thank you, thank you, thank you for this message. This has been me for the past month – frustrated with a stall and giving in to my old ways instead of sticking to what I’ve been doing successfully for 10 months. That stops today!!! Doing the reset to reframe my attitude and decision making and get myself back on track!

  3. Sharlene Wilson says:

    remember,most candy has the bad enhanced sugar. sucrose fructose corn syrup solids, and white sugar. I used to enjoy 11/2 teaspoons of sugar in my coffee and tea. got some jaggery (it’s sugar from southern Asia) and used it in my beverages, now, I drink them black! jaggery has a lot of nutritiion-but it is still sugar! I find it more satisfying than white sugar.

  4. Kathy says:

    Great timing, my husband bought a bag home yesterday. I told him to throw them away, he thought I’d gone crazy. I’m preop and could eat them, but don’t want to, I’m trying to get my fatbrain thinking healthy

  5. Dayna Harpster says:

    Just an ironic aside about that “fun size” designation. Anyone who struggles with sugar would tell you that fun size is a heck of a lot bigger than that!

  6. Sophia says:

    This brought a few tears to my eyes because it’s all true (except for me rolling my eyes part). I’ve struggled, and at time still struggle, with food addiction. this artical is a positive wake up call and a reminder about the candy. I’ve been doing really well not purchasing it. I get candy for my kids, but it’s the stuff I don’t like. Even at times I get tempted, I put it down, or walk on pass thinking—‘Am I getting this item for me or my kids?’ I try not to purchase things for myself. I do pretty good. Anyways, thanks for this article. Can I share it with my facebook?

  7. Karen says:

    Timely as ever. I wasn’t rolling my eyes either, btw.

    The only thing I would disagree with is the statement “NATURALLY SLIM PEOPLE KEEP THEIR MITTS OUT OF THE HALLOWEEN CANDY.” Some do, while others don’t. But whatever naturally slim people do or do not do is irrelevant, because WE are not naturally slim, and we never will be. The fact that we’ve had obesity surgery means we can never “naturally” be slim, although we can *become* slim by using our tool (WLS) correctly and maintaining good habits.

    It’s taken me YEARS to get over what I call the “grass is greener” syndrome: that is, my feelings of deprivation that I was cheated out of something that is natural and the norm for so many others. I had a coworker years ago who was barely 5 feet tall and 98 lbs. soaking wet. And she was constantly eating junk food or processed foods; she HATED vegetables with a passion. And then there were the 2 supervisors (at 2 different jobs) who were under-weight and had to be reminded to eat; they would actually FORGET to eat! 😮

    The bottom line is that we are who we were born to be, and since that did not include “naturally slim”, we have to compensate for what we do not have. And that means (say it with me): PLEASE DON’T TOUCH THE CANDY.

  8. Sarah says:

    WOW I’m 2 years post-op and have regain and stalled out at 255-266 for the last year. I do make horrible choices because I am scared of the slimmer version of me and I’ve kept all of my old clothes because I would cry and beat myself up that I won’t be able to do the “hard” part, I’m needing therapy in a very bad way but can’t afford it right now, I’m on so many antidepressants and have been on many meds to control appetite (none have worked for me) I’m actually thinking of a revision (duodenal switch) so I can get physically sick with eating any sugar (sugar is my weakness) I want to be away from sugar and know that one bite will kill me, literally. I’m so glad I get these emails and have really gone through and found some great stuff on here. I’m not giving up and will win this battle.

    • Suzanne Shaw says:

      I would strongly advise you to seek therapy before you seek another surgery. If the surgery you had now isn’t stopping you from making bad food choices, how can you be sure another will do that? Please get some help to get to the root of your food issues so that you can move beyond this, you deserve to invest in yourself so you are truly mentally healthy and stable, as well as physically healthy.

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