The Honeymoon Phase
Paul Vargas – California
Gastric Bypass RNY, 2009
This is not a hobby or part time job, we have a serious personal responsibility to take care of the body that was drastically altered by a surgery we volunteered to have.”
The honeymoon phase is one of the most crucial parts of this weight loss journey. Much like when you first get married, there is that fog of bliss which hides the reality of bills, housekeeping, laundry, kids, work and other habits that have not had a chance to frustrate you yet.
The same fog of bliss happens with bariatric surgery, when our guts are rearranged we have no idea that we are no longer the captain. We truly don’t grasp that we have absolutely nothing to do with the massive seven month weight drop. Your WLS is driving this damn ship (look at me, I am the captain now).
It is during this pivotal time that some will say “hey what the hell, I can still eat all the same crap and lose weight”. They will think “damn if I lost 70 pounds eating McDonalds, then I must be doing something right”.
The truth is that during this phase you could be stuffing your gullet with Twinkies and the weight would still come off.
But your body is not stupid, after it gets used to how these new pipes work – your new pouch or sleeve – the weight loss will come to a screeching halt and even reverse if you keep on the same path of not following your food/exercise plan. You will watch in horror as that scale is now going up and up, even though you are eating the same food you did the last 7-9 months.
This surgery should be a turning point in your life, your honeymoon phase is the time to break free of the foods that kept you mentally and emotionally in prison. No other time will the weight come off with minimal work and exercise. Why not make this a time to unlearn old habits, create new ones and see a positive outcome (the weight loss) this won’t ever happen again.
If you don’t then a huge world of hurt and guilt will be coming with nowhere for you to hide. So what I am trying to share in a delicate way is don’t let others bullshit you about being able to eat whatever you want in smaller amounts and keep the weight off forever. You will need to stick to your plan.
This is not a hobby or part time job, we have a serious personal responsibility to take care of the body that was drastically altered by a surgery we volunteered to have. Don’t minimize what you have done. Don’t order the pizza or breadsticks, don’t put those Doritos in your shopping cart and for the sake of all that is good, don’t finish off the mac and cheese on your kids plates, it is ok to throw away food. If this bothers you, then think about where those same habits got you prior to weight loss surgery.
Together we can succeed. Life is a difficult journey and even more challenging with weight loss surgery if we don’t pull together and help each other. I wish you all strength and peace.
– Paul Vargas, member Bariatric Eating No More Regain Support Group on Facebook