When you smile and say 'Everything in Moderation', is it more likely before diving into a Grilled Salmon Salad... or a Pepperoni Pizza? Be honest with yourself. Everything in Moderation is the biggest pile of bull we try and tell ourselves and unfortunately we try and sell it to others. There are entire so-called support groups on Facebook dedicated to the perpetuation of this crime of post op life. If you've already started gaining weight, maybe there is time to get real before most of the pounds come back and stick to you.
The truth is that Everything in Moderation is Bariatric Baloney.
I'll have what she's having
If I had a friend who ate salad with the orgasmic abandon of the gal on the left, I would think something was wrong! In real life the Pizza Eater declares 'Everything in Moderation'. No one happily announces 'Everything in Moderation' before attacking a salad. It's what someone says when they are looking for looking for support in ordering a giant hunk of something crazy fattening at The CheeseCake Factory. No one cares who says it, as long as someone says it!
Worst. Dietary. Advice. of. All. Time.
"Everything in Moderation! Don't deprive yourself. Unhealthy foods are only unhealthy in excess. Balance is important. Eat anything you want as long as it is in moderation." Here's the problem, moderation works for very few people. You know this is true! Youíve tried it over and over and over again. If the 'moderation thing' worked, you would not be sitting here reading this with most of your stomach cut away or gone, with intestines rearranged, or a silicon band pinching off part of the organ. Let it go... give it up. Abandon that ship. It has not worked your entire life and isn't working now. (unless you are in the Honeymoon Phase and if so, I hate to tell you, but you're not driving the bus yet.)
Don't We Suck at Willpower?
There really are some very unhealthy foods in this world. It takes super high calorie foods to grow oneself to claim the title of Morbidly Obese or the grand daddy of them all... SUPER Morbidly Obese. Why would anyone want to moderate foods like soda, chips, fast food, cake, candy and fries back into their life while trying to lose weight or live at goal? Especially after all that we have gone through in having bariatric surgery. The biggest problem with moderation is that it relies on willpower, and as I recall we sort of sucked at willpower. At least I did. If you are being honest with yourself, so did you.
Ben & his best friend Jerry
Think of the times you grabbed a pint of Cherry Garcia and a Spoon. How many times did you EVER return a 1/2 full container back to the freezer? Thankyouveramuch. Why would anyone expect it to be different after bariatric surgery? Especially to a 'Sleever' who does not get sick with sugar. Many of the foods we justify eating by claiming 'EIM' have been modified to be super tempting, high in carbs and sugar, calorie dense and without satiety that tells the brain to STOP. The odds are stacked against you by the food industry and your willpower cannot overcome the urge to keep eating.
Pouch is the New Moderation
Our Moderation Meter did not work, that's why we were morbidly obese. Our food picker was and STILL IS broken. In order to help us to lose 100 pounds, we had moderation surgically installed in the form of a 4 ounce pouch, leaving us to simply make the right choices. Don't mess up your opportunity: Everything in Moderation is junk science and you already know that. You just don't want to accept it.
After living with my own surgery for almost 20 years and working with many thousands of post ops, I've noticed that the 'everything in moderation' people appear to hit the wall a lot harder because they 'everything in moderationed' themselves into eating the same food that created their need for surgery. I have to give them credit, as the EIM folks in our support groups are a tenacious bunch who will fight you hard, all the way up the scale. It is time to give up the foods that were responsible for your near demise. Stop clinging to bread and chips! Make the tough changes. Black and white goals without room for interpretation or justification are easier to reach than soft goals. "I will eat better" , "I will exercise more" , and "Everything in moderation" are vague goals that allow plenty of wiggle room for us to get what we want right now for the moment without regard to tomorrows consequences. I will eat better? Better than what?
There are entire food categories that it is healthier for us to stop eating. Rather than kid myself that I can have ice cream, English muffins or cheese fries in moderation, I have scratched them off the list and and have found new things to like that don't steal away my hard earned weight loss and sink my happiness. By letting go of Everything in Moderation we'll find ourselves in a much better place now and in thirty years.
I know its hard, but did you REALLY think you could have your stomach largely removed and still wash down Doritos, Oreos and Dominos Pizza with Diet Coke?
Naaaaaa! You knew that was baloney! It takes work to change and we can help you to start now. Check out the Inspire Diet straighten up and get your sparkle back.