Many times we see confusion about a word that we use frequently in our Bariatric Eating Support Group on Facebook.
That word? Fatbrain!
It stings. BUT....there's a reason it stings. We talk about Fatbrain a lot but obviously, some don't yet recognize it.
It’s that little voice in your head. You know the one I mean… the one that says “Buy the cookies, you’ll have one and then give the rest to the kids in their lunches.”
Or “You LOST weight this week, you deserve that cake. Go ahead and order a slice.”
Or “I NEED some crunch with my tuna. I’ll grab a couple of crackers. A few don’t hurt and I don’t have them often.”
How about “I go ahead and get the wrap but I wont eat ALL the tortilla, so it will be fine.” Fatbrain is that voice that tells you “go ahead because just a little won’t hurt.” when you remember that you have ice cream in your freezer.
My favorite one? “If I add a scoop of protein to this cake it’s a healthy choice.”
It sounds silly to read, and I know many of you are snickering a little but I would put money down that every single member in both our Facebook groups has a Fatbrain that lies to them daily.
Now I know it seems harsh to point it out this way, but here is the truth. Fatbrain doesn't just APPEAR out of the blue one day. Sadly WE are the cause & creators of our own Fatbrains. They came into our lives because we gave in all too often to those random thoughts about food. We created our very own worst enemy.
Want an example? Here's one from our Facebook Group, this was posted on a thread asking about what to do if you don't like Yogurt.
Think about it for a second.
Thin people, you know those ones who "can eat whatever they like and not gain weight" don't think about ADDING stuff, and certainly not more yogurt, some cottage cheese & fruit when something is too thick. Only Fatbrain comes up with ideas like that when in fact if something is thick, adding some liquid will thin out it in a second.
And that’s ok. We can help. We come off as being stricter than most groups out there because WE SPEAK FATBRAIN TOO.
We have that same voice in our heads that lies about whether or not it’s OK to order a diet coke “just this once”
In our Support group, our entire Admin Team draws a firm line in the sand because they know that Fatbrain will take an INCH of leeway and RUN with it and then suddenly you’re STILL not in Onederland and you don’t know what happened. They aren't singleing you out. They aren't trying to be mean. They are trying to help you move beyond your own Fatbrain. Because the other truth is that Fatbrain will be easier to ignore when you stop feeding it every time it pops up.
In our groups, we speak from the heart because we speak with experience. We have a passion for helping others because WE KNOW. We know what Fatbrain says… but we know in your hearts that what you really want is better.
Stick with us. If you aren't a member come join us.
We can help show you how to stop listening to Fatbrain how to listen to your heart and get what you really want... a better life.